Lessons from the Classroom of Life

There is no such thing as a right or wrong decision only – THE DECISION

You are not Something you are Somebody.

Be  a traveler of life not a tourist

Don’t sell your dreams for  Money..

Attitude is more important than skills………Fine-tune it

Save and invest as much as possible. 
It is the oldest secret to becoming rich.

There will always be people who disagree.
Stick to your guns and avoid negative people.

If you worry about money you will have money worries.

Others are mirrors of you surround yourself with 
people who reflect the best you.

Be appreciative of honest critics. 
There is always room for improvement.

Don’t burn any bridges you never know when you’ll need 
family, friends and a good  reference.

The surest way to get people to notice you is to smile.

Don’t allow the unimportant to become important nor the
important to become unimportant.

Open your heart….Let people In.

Show your feelings…It takes too much energy not to…

Accept people for who they are. Trying to change someone doesn’t work

Never be miserable in a job or a relationship. Life is short……Move on….

Nature helps keep your spirit alive.

Watch the Sun rise and set.

Listen to rain.

Gaze at  stars.

Look for rainbows.

Smell the flowers…

DON’T FORGET TO LIVE LIFE …..YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE………..

Aai

It was a pleasant morning in Hyderabad when I woke up a bit early that day…thought of talking to my mom through webcam… a nice feeling sailing inside me and I was trying to figure out what it was….Mom was as cheerful as ever….and the first thing she showed me was today’s Newspaper which had a banner news about Vinayak Deshmukh the youth takes over the old and beside him stood his Aai….Vinayak was Chendu my childhood pal.  My eyes flooded with pride for Chendu and Aai as I went down memory lane….

The Deshmukhs lived nextdoor…..A big joint family with a strength of almost 25 members….Aai was a typical Maharashtrian lady….who wore navvari…..put a big red dot on her forehead and covered her head always…..She was  the most caring, most lovable and most humble human being in chendu’s house…..Aai was his mother and all Chendu’s cousins  and even we friends addressed her  Aai… even a simple dal tadka made by Aai would taste awesome.  And the hugs we used to get from her meant a lot.

The only ornament which she wore was a smile on her face 24x7. ….would used to wonder all the rest of chendu’s aunties were decked up with gold top to bottom and aai being the eldest of all the  bahus so simple………why??? She never went to any functions always remained at home to be more precise in the outhouse… nevertheless if there was any function at home she would run around like a cartwheel and manage the whole show….She was the Spinal cord of the house….everyone  relied on her…she too gave her best ideas and they seldom were the common ones. They were always number one….She was very concerned about the birds and animals as well.  She had made a earthen tank outside the gate for cattle and a special pot for the birds…..all quenched their thirst there… She was illiterate…and the source of income which she was proud came from her tailoring… had seen her thumb impressions on chendu’s report cards. Never saw Chendu’s baba at home…….never had the courage to ask him…too……

Days passed into years and we grew up. Chendu was a very good student and a leader from the beginning. He had good leadership traits……..which followed him in college as well. One day Chendu’s uncle went to Aai and said there is a good job for chendu and I can recommend him too…..Aai said a firm no……..she said he has a much brighter future…..look at the spark in his face..he is a leader everywhere…..he is not meant for this job……please don’t force anything upon him. Let him be what he wants to be…He was a  born Leader....He was a Social worker too…..this quality definitely seems to come from Aai…….who used to run around the house for everybody selflessly.  Had to leave the town for my Army training.  Though kept getting Chendu and Aai’s news from my mom.

Soon Chendu became the Corporator of the area. Not like the  present ones….corrupt and money-minded. He was a gem at heart…..The masses loved him. Aai was so proud of him. And we too…. And Today  he was elected  as the MLA …today I saw his picture on the front page of  the most popular daily……..and Aai stands beside him………with the same smile her flawless ornament on her face….Don’t we need fair politicians for a more secure future….and what Jeejamata did for Shivba…. Aai did for Chendu…

Aai is the best example for all the women folk…. Iron fist in a velvet glove….

Does it matter today that  a lady whose husband left her  just one month after their marriage  for no reason stood like  a firm rock all her life ? was she ever alone? Who brought up a son like Chendu !! What courage and determination she must have had?  And what unwavering faith she had in her son, who grew up much more than her expectations…Moreover no grudges with life nor anyone else… not even Chendu’s baba Depression what the hell it was????…. …..what else she could ask for? 

 All said and done- tough times don’t last but tough people do…!!!

True Love....!!!

One busy  morning an elderly gentleman in his eighties arrives in my clinic to have stitches removed from his thumb. He said he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9.00 a.m. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat  knowing it would be over an hour before someone would be able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch time and again I decided to evaluate his wound as I was not that busy and no more patients were waiting. On examination I saw the wound was completely healed and so I asked one of the Doctors to remove his stitches and redress his wound.

While redressing I started to talk to him whether he had another appointment that morning as he seemed to be in a hurry. The Gentleman said he wanted to go to another nursing home to see his wife and have breakfast with her. I asked as to what’s wrong with her and he said it has been quite some time since she has been hospitalized she was a victim of  Alzheimer’s Disease.

As we talked…. I asked him would she be upset, if he gets a bit late? To which he said she no longer knows who he was and has stopped recognizing him since the past 5 years now. I was taken aback and asked  “Sir and you still visit her daily even though she stopped recognizing you….he patted my hand and said…..she doesn’t know me but I very well know who she is……..I had to hold back tears as he left. I had goose-bumps on my arm when I thought that is the kind of love I have been waiting for all my life. True love is neither physical nor romantic. True love is the acceptance of all that is , has been, will be and will not be. The happiest people don’t have the best of everything but they make the best of everything that they have.

I grew up hearing stories of Romeo-Juliet, Sohni Mahiwal, Heer Ranjha…..and then the films like Ek duje ke liye and Qayamat se Qayamat tak…Oh what dedicated human beings being portrayed…….do we find them in today’s lives….or my Mom and Dad who just completed 40 years of marriage… or this Gentleman who is so dedicated towards his wife…are they truly in Love?? Yess..….Can true love live happily ever after…??…..I think the other way round. True love has no end……It just goes on increasing till infinity…. They say its better to be loved and lost, than not to be loved at all…..true…..it was the only emotion which God created I think jealousy, animosity, pride, anger, ego, hatred are all man made. And hence make no sense at all. Blessed is the person who loves and is loved….

Can there be any parameters of love??? Can it be measured??? Can it be judged??? We can’t even restrict love to words………..it is beyond words…….the eternal emotion which even the Gods experienced…….Self-less, motiveless, pure, chaste and the most wonderful thing that can happen to mankind. It enters when you are not even aware of it….and gives you an endless feeling of ecstacy and it never leaves you. People say his/her love has left…………I disagree it can never leave u…….It just spreads its wings within you…

As they say Life isn’t all about how you survive in the storm its all about dancing in the rain….

Just Like That....

She was 15 and he was fourteen………Tall, dashing newly growing moustache looks which were flawless……..she immediately fell for him. It was love at first sight….she was a dusky beauty all features just intact and can kill anyone for that matter. He proposed her one day in a very filmy way…and she just nodded her head….So the fire now at both sides..It was a teenage love….but does love look at the age it begins with?? Creams and peaches, movies and ice-creams, noodles and parties were the only things sought after….Studies what the hell it was???? All gone into oblivion…….and suddenly one day he walked away with another girl………….just like that as they say……She was heart-broken……..because she knew nothing beyond him….It was him with open and closed eyes….they say love just happens once and and the first love of her life…..Could it be more bitter?????

Best part of Life is it  moves on……it moved her… it made her harsher and stronger…..and again she came across a guy who fell for her at first sight…she thought how can I love him……my mind is still stuck with my first love….but he insisted and persisted until she bowed down….ok she thought ….being in the same profession it would be fine marrying him….we would have a good future…all was going well….they studied together…planned their future…...and suddenly one day he flew away to Singapore……just like that…..

To err is human……..she knew….but now it was twice….shattered though….gathered herself  gracefully and promised herself never trust a man now. They are perverted creeps. Cowards !! can’t even  stand up to their words…But it’s a man’s world…how long she could stay away from them…This time a Marriage Proposal….he was a wealthy business tycoon with chain of wine shops. She said no I want to be a Spinster……can’t trust these men now mom……..Mom said “all men are not the same….look at ur dad…..Isn’t he a gentleman?....Oh yeah  he has been the ideal man have watched him while I grew up..but aren’t there exceptions Mom ?……this generation doesn’t have dad kinda men….Mom explained: God gave them strong bodies darling, but they are weak at heart……they are the weaker species….we are more stronger……so God gives us all the troubles….because he knows men they can’t handle all this….we can so all tests in our fold……”.She listened to mom as she used to listened to her fairy tales when she was small….Ok fine she said…..I’ll marry him…and they got married….he was a very good human being with very bad habits……..Boozed and beat her were the worst of them…..As if this was not enough…..Oh God she said…..”can u create atleast one man with a healthy bone marrow and a decent heart……..why don’t they borrow some from women…?”and one fine morning he left her for hell …just like that……

Can men be ever trusted  she thought??………just like that!!!

Hum Tum

Hum: Why not?
Tum: What if?

Hum:Tomorrow never comes!!
Tum: If tomorrow comes!

Hum: What next?
Tum: When will?

Hum:This is too much
Tum:We can't really measure

Hum:So no Point!
Tum: What's the point?

Hum: Is that so?
Tum: What shall be?

Hum: I'm going!
Tum: When will u come?

Hum:Whatever
Tum:Its authentic

Hum: Seriously
Tum: Joking

Hum: that's it then...
Tum: so be it....


and the argument continues................opposites .........sheer opposites............but opposites attract they say ......the argument continues and will continue still they are together...........HUM-TUM

This is just a beginning....

My first day at my blog..........They say its a Promise day today. For me it was a  Proposal day. Have been making proposals and proposals since morning..........So I forgot about the Promise. Will I forget that it is  a Thursday too........that's the joy of working in a field u love. As they say if you love your job...u won't have to work a day in ur life...............Love my job Love my life....